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What interesting times we find ourselves in. This COVID-19 self-isolation/quarantine/Work From Home (WFH) time frame seems like it’s gone on for years, even though it’s only been a few weeks.
It’s been over a month for me, and although I’ve been on this big round ball for 5 decades, it feels like it’s been going on forever.
WFH is not a new thing for me. I’ve had the opportunity to WFH off and on for nearly 2 decades. However this time feels different. With so many stores and restaurants closed (among other businesses as well), the distraction of popping over to a store to buy something or window shop isn’t there.
Sports is non existent, and for someone like me, it’s been a tough adjustment to not be able to watch live sports.
If you’re new to WFH, you’re likely struggling with boundaries around your work. Instead of you having your “home office” to yourself, you might have several other people, pets, etc at home at the same time. Maybe you’re the parent, cook, teacher, and employee all in the same place.
It won’t work that way.
You’re stressing yourself trying to do it all at the same time. It’s like riding a bike while preparing a meal. I’m sure there are some mock-ups that would allow you to do that, but it’s not realistic.
You’ll overwhelm yourself if you try to do it all. Spoiler alert: You can’t. For parents that are now the teachers of their children, don’t try to teach them a full school year’s worth of education in a day or week. That’s too much. If your school district isn’t providing you content to teach your children, then find out the subject(s) that your child was studying before COVID-19, and continue with that. Baby steps.
I’ve seen many memes online about parents wanting to suspend/expel their students. Likewise children saying they hope they don’t get the same teacher next year. They’re funny to a point, and a good reminder on how crucial our educational professionals are, in the education of our children. Not an easy job, is it?
You need to have boundaries around the time you spend educating your children. I recommend smaller time blocks (say 30-45 min per session) with a 10 minute break. Quite similar to what I recommend people do at work. Reward your kids for their focus in their school work.
If you have both parents in the home, both should help out with the new 24/7 at home environment. If it’s just a single parent household, see if your older children can step up and help (even just a little.) it empowers them to take more responsibility in life.
Just like your work day, you need to schedule the school day. Does your kid go to school at 6:30 pm? Not likely, so don’t play teacher at that time. Stick to the normal times they would be in school, so when they do return to the classroom, they won’t have such a shock to the system.
Do you play with your kids after they get home with school? Continue doing that. Could be board games, watching TV together, arts & crafts, whatever. Continue to do that, and if you didn’t do that prior to COVID-19, there’s an opportunity to introduce a new habit.
Same goes for your workday. You need to work the hours that you did when you went to the office. If your boss is emailing you all hours, and that’s not how they behaved before COVID-19, then you need to establish boundaries around when you work and when you don’t. Involve HR if you need to, because we don’t need any more jackass bosses trying to make you work around the clock.
A key to remember is to not beat yourself up over this. You’ve been tasked with an impossible to-do list, so do what you can, at a pace that doesn’t stress you out.
Support Systems
Do you have a trusted friend or advisor? Now is the time to reach out to them, if they’re available. Everyone is experiencing some COVID-19 issues (hopefully not the virus itself!), so they may need you just as much as you need them. There’s no shortage of video and cell phone options to connect with advisors, loved ones, etc.
Testing to see if you have Covid is critical for your mental well-being. Utilize covid testing near me to find a convenient location close to you.
It is always beneficial to use a support system like friends and family during tough times, although there are many remedies for anxiety and stress that are becoming increasingly more popular. Where marijuana is legal, people can buy weed online and get the stress-relieving, relaxing solution that they are looking for. However, this is not an option everywhere - even within the USA, individual state laws prohibit marijuana, but there may still be products within the cannabis family that are permitted. For example, there has been a ton of research on the benefits of utilizing CBD to help with mental stress. Here are the Best CBD Gummies for Anxiety & Depression: Top 10 Picks in 2021 that you could check out, if you are interested.
Boundaries
Your workspace needs to be a workspace, and nothing else. For some of us, that’s an impossibility. I live in a condo, so I don’t have a dedicated office space right now. I do have a couple spaces I use to record podcasts and participate on video calls, but it’s not dedicated.
If there is a corner of your home you can dedicate to work, then I highly recommend setting it up as close to your workplace setup as possible. Hopefully your employer will cover office supply expenses, so you can have the tools you need to perform your job remotely. Key is to improvise and go with the flow. It won’t be perfect, and that’s ok.
A reminder to establish WFH boundaries around the time you check email and work. You don’t need to be constantly connected to email. Take this opportunity to slow down your pace a little. Deep focus on your work and you’ll likely discover you’re getting more done at home than you did at work. Lack of interruptions is likely a key reason.
An exercise I have clients do is track the number of interruptions they have in a day. Scientific research shows that it takes several minutes for us to re-focus after being interrupted. If you’re getting 50-100 interruptions at work every day, it’s a wonder you get anything done.
An exercise I did when I started WFH was close my eyes and imagine what items I needed to do my job. I made sure I had all of those things. With cloud-based computing, cell phones, and video calls, the need to work out of an office is diminishing. Commercial real estate might take a big hit after this COVID-19 saga is behind us, because some organizations will discover they can have their workers work from anywhere (including home), which reduces the need for a large office space. It will be interesting to watch how all of this unfolds.
Self Isolation and WFH
Since we’re all under a self-isolation mandate, meeting up with co-workers is frowned upon (or in some jurisdictions, against the law), so isolation is creating some mental health challenges with many. Mood swings, irritability, headaches, anxiety, depression, etc are just some of the challenges I’m seeing with people.
If your employer offers EAP (employee assistance program) services, I recommend you use those services if you’re dealing with increased stress, anxiety, depression, etc. As a certified CBT and NLP therapist, I can help as well, especially if you’re experiencing high stress and burnout.
If you need to speak to a therapist about your WFH struggles, here’s a link to book a no obligation call with me or one of my coaches: Book a call
If you want a worksheet to track your interruptions, click this link: Interruptions Sheet
We’ll get through this.
Be safe and be well!